When You Stop Pleasing Everyone and Start Living Your Own Life
I tried to be nice and fair to everyone. I pushed myself in jobs to the point of injury, aiming to please everyone.
People around me started to take me for granted and take advantage of me.
I rarely say no, but I’ve learned the hard way that I must set boundaries and say no a lot.
Why do that?
In the cycle of over-stretching, I found myself rushing like everyone else.
Trying to change my life all at once.
Desperately trying to fit in.
I have completely lost touch with my intuition.
Deep inside, I knew I was different.
Yet tried so hard to change myself to fit into others’ expectations.
This constant need to be accepted, understood, and loved only made me unhappy because none of these efforts worked.
I felt like I had failed in life.
But I know better now. I realized that I had given myself to the wrong people. To those who didn’t care for me the way I did for them.
Trying to be someone else is just a betrayal of the wonderful, unique person you really are.
I’ve decided to simplify my life and live a minimalist lifestyle.
To start, I reduced my wardrobe to only essential items, opting for quality over quantity.
This change not only decluttered my space but also made daily decisions simpler and more meaningful.
It provided me with a sense of clarity and peace.
I started to realize that perfection is an illusion.
Living with stress and overwhelm is suicidal because the stress will destroy your physical and mental health.
Accept and love yourself just the way you are.
With all your imperfections, bad habits, and mistakes.
It’s ok to be human.
We all make mistakes.
That is how we learn and can grow.
Aim to become fully aware and caring, loving of yourself.
Then you can strive to improve and grow a little every day.
Once you unlearn all the conditioned, self-limiting beliefs from your environment and society, you will discover your true self.
This mental shift frees your focus to unlock that unique, talented, amazing person you are – who can reach all your goals and live up to your true potential.
To help you start this unlearning process, try this simple exercise:
Spend a few minutes each day in quiet reflection or journaling.
Consider writing down one belief about yourself that feels limiting or imposed by others.
Ask yourself:
Is this belief truly mine?
Does it serve me?
Reflect on these questions without judgment and allow yourself the freedom to let go of the beliefs that do not align with your true self.
Beneath the surface of the loud noises coming from outside opinions, you will hear your own heart calling.
Teaching you how to be your authentic self.
All you need to do is observe in silence and listen.
When you release the heavy burden placed on you by your environment’s expectations, you become free and fearless.
Your true nature will come alive.
It will never be the same again.
It will be like a miracle full of purpose, meaning, peace, and joy in your life.
Never let anyone define you.
Your abilities.
Your goals.
Your worth.
Breathe deep.
Let go of the outside noise.
Let your unique rhythm, your personal way of moving through life, guide you to the life you always wanted for yourself.
Be unique, enjoy it, and be 100% honest with yourself.
Stop comparing yourself to anyone but you.
You are wise enough to figure out what “enough” means to you. Once you have decided what is “enough,” you will not give a shit what others have and for what they are trading their precious time.
Stop seeking love and validation from the outside world. Treat yourself like you are the love of your life and put your needs first. Always.
It’s ok to be misunderstood by others and listen to your heart alone.
Do the things you want to do, not what is told you.
Because all you’ve got is one life to live.
You deserve to have a great one.
Take care, believe in yourself.
Aki
